The Aging Female Collapsed Narcissist

Are you acquainted with a woman who seems to derive pleasure from playing the perpetual victim? Someone who habitually blames others for her unhappiness? Whether she is your mother, wife, ex-partner, friend, or relative, have you encountered a woman who appears to have lost her ability to achieve her desires? If so, you may be dealing with an aging female collapsed narcissist.

Know about the aging female narcissist. Ifyou can relate to this, let me pose a few questions:

Firstly, is she of a certain age?
And if so, does she exhibit an excessively inflated sense of self-importance?
Is she unreasonably entitled and constantly seeks excessive attention and admiration from those around her?
Does she genuinely believe she is superior to others, even if she pretends otherwise?
Does she tend to exaggerate her accomplishments and talents?
Does she frequently discuss her past fame, beauty, or wealth?
Does she feel the need to associate only with individuals she considers special?
Is it challenging to have a conversation with her that isn’t centered around herself?
Does she take advantage of people’s kindness?
Is she the type of woman who demands preferential treatment above others, showing little concern for others’ feelings? Is she conceited, snobbish, or arrogant?
Does she always strive to be the best and possess the best of everything?
And how does she react when faced with criticism?
Does she become upset or angry when she doesn’t receive what she desires, or when others don’t treat her better than everyone else?
Does she consistently encounter problems in her personal relationships and friendships?
And despite her efforts to appear perfect and flawless, do you ever suspect that deep down she might be insecure or burdened with shame about herself?

If you recognize these traits, it is likely that you are dealing with an aging female narcissist.

It’s possible that such individuals realize they can no longer acquire the narcissistic supply they crave. This can happen when the narcissist’s family and friends reach their limit and gradually abandon them.

In some cases, the narcissist loses their ability to attract new supply as they age and lose their physical attractiveness. Alternatively, their self-absorption may hinder their ability to employ tactics like love bombing. These factors, alone or in combination, can contribute to a narcissistic crisis or a collapsed narcissist.

Let me clarify the term “collapsed narcissist”: it refers to a narcissist who can no longer obtain the adequate amount and type of narcissistic supply they require. Narcissistic supply typically involves individuals who bolster the narcissist’s self-worth, self-esteem, and overall sense of value as a person. When a collapsed narcissist feels deprived of this essential supply, they experience narcissistic injury. Consequently, they find themselves in excruciating pain, believing that they are being denied the very sustenance they need to survive.

This leads to a cascade of emotions and a crumbling of their world, as the collapsed narcissist struggles to cope with the inability to achieve their goals or receive the admiration and praise they feel entitled to. The impact extends not only to the narcissist but also to the people in their vicinity.

Now, let’s focus specifically on the collapsed female narcissist and her psychological state. In many ways, her self-esteem begins to erode, and she experiences self-devaluation and self-doubt. This self-hate intensifies to the point where she projects it onto those around her, convinced that everyone despises her. Consequently, the female narcissist reciprocates this perceived hatred. She sees no reason to extend kindness to others since, in her mind, everyone is fake and foolish.

At this stage, the collapsed narcissist’s social life diminishes or disappears altogether. She adopts a constant defensive stance, attempting to force those around her to provide the much-needed supply she was once accustomed to.